“Aashirwad” rather say,” bado ka aashirwad” is given in large amounts of cash at any family get-togethers. They say, these are meant to express their love or blessings, why can’t it be conveyed without such heavy gifts?

“Ye lo beta, aashirwad”, with this sentence a coloured envelope comes your way. The envelope may be attached with a golden string, or a stamp of one rupee beaming on top. Some are printed, some are hand-made, and not to forget environment-friendly ones. But inside the envelope are the same-heavy paper notes!

You visit someone’s home on some good occasion, the elders give you money. Depending on the nature of the relationship you have with them, the amount could be Rs.51, 101, 201, 501 and so on. Whenever we go to any relatives place, for lunch, dinner or just a get-together, after a good food, fun and laughter, the usual marathon begins, the ladies running and fumbling their purses. The 500, 1000 notes come in the crispiest attire that day. One rupee, in its shiny armour, becomes the VIP, as, without it, the bigger notes stand no chance.

This, then, leads to the same usual lines:

“Nahi, main ye nahi lungi, Bilkul nahi. Arey itna koi deta hai kya, nahi nahi bikul nahi”

“Arey beta, aisa nahi kehte, Ye bado ka aashirwad hai/ye toh shagun hota hai”

More often than not, bado ka aashirwad is way too bada actually. Will a 50 or 100 rupees note not depict the same amount of love and care? Has the cash business not gone way out of hand?

The concept of this “aashirwad system” has always stunned me. I have seen this tradition since my childhood, and I feel it is a simple barter system. My relatives give an envelope each to my siblings and me. Immediately or whenever they visit our place, the same or more is delivered to their kids. I don’t understand, what’s the point in doing so?

Yes, I agree that our elders and loved ones give us cash so that we can buy things of our choice. But is that all about it? I don’t think so; it has bigger implications in our society, think over it!

I have often heard people saying “lena dena is a gesture of love, affection, attachment, Maan-Samman” but Maan-Samman lena dena se hi hota hai kya? Won’t a great get together and quality time spent with each other do that?

I feel it should not be a compulsion to shower younger ones with copiousness every time you meet them. I firmly believe in condemning this practice and this is one such practice in our culture that I seriously contemn.

Let’s make the family time about togetherness, fun and happiness. No cash or gifts attached! In case you are obliged to bind money with love, just follow the simple mantra, “less is more”. The lesser you give makes less pressure on the other party and it makes more room for love and enjoyment.

Time hai Badalne Ka!